Toward someone: Interest, comfort, connection.
Away from someone: detachment, disinterest, discomfort.
“We point our feet and legs toward what we like and move away from what we don’t,” Loisel says, adding that the direction of the feet and legs speak volumes.
Subconscious modesty
Let’s face it – fashion hasn’t always been functional. In skirts or dresses, crossing the legs can be a subconscious way to maintain modesty, especially in public or professional settings. It’s a gesture deeply rooted in etiquette, even if today’s clothing allows more freedom.
Self-comforting
Interestingly, psychologists note that crossing your legs can be a self-soothing action. It gives a sense of boundary, a way to claim personal space – especially in crowded or unfamiliar environments.
Professional and personal situations
In the workplace: In a professional setting, crossing legs at the knee or ankle often reflects confidence and control. It’s a common posture in boardrooms and interviews – but beware: over-crossing or bouncing can give off signs of anxiety or impatience
For those in leadership roles, sitting with one ankle resting on the opposite knee – sometimes called the “figure-four” – is a more assertive, masculine-leaning position. Few women adopt it, but when they do, it radiates boldness.
Casually with friends: When relaxing among friends, the leg cross often becomes less formal and more about comfort. Think slouched posture, knees draped casually – here, body language shifts to express ease and openness rather than precision or poise.
On a date: Leg-crossing can become part of flirtation here. Crossing toward someone shows interest and attentiveness, while slow movements (like uncrossing and re-crossing) can even be interpreted as subtle flirtation – all without saying a word.
Powerful language
While comfort plays a role, it’s clear that crossing legs is also a powerful, silent language that expresses everything from confidence to caution, modesty to mood. Whether at work, at brunch, or just waiting for the train, women across the globe continue this gesture, often without a second thought – and yet, it’s full of meaning.
