My best friend married my sister, who has Down syndrome. Then she nearly died giving birth to their twins. As doctors fought to save her, he pulled me into an empty hallway, and whispered, “Now it’s time for you to understand WHY I REALLY married her.” What he revealed next made me scream.
I was seven years old the first time I understood that my sister was different in a way the world would punish her for.
She was six, one year behind me.
Her eyes lit up whenever someone said her name kindly.
Most children did not say it kindly.
They pointed at her and laughed.
My sister was different in a way the world would punish her for.
They teased her until she cried.
I would stand in front of her like a tiny wall, my fists balled at my sides.
Ben, my best friend, was the one boy who never flinched.
“Rosie, you’ll always have Ben and me,” I told her.
I said it again and again, until she believed it.
He picked her for kickball when the other captains rolled their eyes.
In fourth grade, he crouched in front of her and made a promise I never forgot.
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They teased her until she cried.
“Rosie, when we’re older, I’m taking you to prom. That’s a promise.”
Rosie clapped her hands and beamed at him.
“You heard him,” she said to me, breathless. “Ben said it.”
I nodded, my chest warm with something I could not yet name.
***
The years folded into each other the way happy years do.
Ben rode his bike to our house nearly every afternoon.
“Rosie, when we’re older, I’m taking you to prom.”
My mother tolerated him.
My father barely looked up from his newspaper when he came in.
But Rosie waited by the window for the sound of his tires.
***
By the time I was seventeen, I had started imagining a future with Ben.
